Like most self-respecting (albeit then-closeted) queer woman, I happened to be aware of “the actual L Word,” Ilene Chaiken’s 2010-12 spin-off regarding the demonstrate that identified a generation people in one method or other. At that time the program broadcast, I becamen’t curious. It had nothing to do with my personal denial of my bisexual identification and everything to do with the truth that I was however pissed at Chaiken for doing

my personal woman Jenny Schecter

thus really, really wrong inside the season finale in the original “The L keyword.”

Fast forward ten years whenever homosexual stars aimed for me personally and I found myself personally bingeing all three seasons in one single week. Numerous elements added to the unconscious decision. One: I found myself in the home stretch of edits for my 2nd queer YA book in 2021 and I also frantically required mind candy. Two: Showtime struck upwards my personal email with a 30-day trial offer, basically for any new season of “Billions,” a show i’ve never viewed. Three: Really, I Happened To Be interested.

In older times, I happened to be a dedicated follower of “The Hills,” MTV’s thoroughly ridiculous, utterly addicting reality crisis about very, hetero 20-somethings living in LA. “The Real L term” held similar sun-drenched, sugary feeling of escapism — best way, means,


gayer — plus with an increase of canines and, beginning in season two, a very adorable kitty. Yes, absolutely mess: phony crisis that’s obviously staged by manufacturers, a lot of genuine shouting in really packed organizations, and really, romi rain insta. Having said that, “the true L term” had some good stuff that held me personally seeing till the very end of Whitney and Sara’s big homosexual wedding, right away Googling just what everybody’s around nowadays, and soon after my faves on Insta (

hi, Kacy!

) — and of course dorkily moving around my personal apartment to

that catchy theme song

. Here’s what I all of a sudden adored:

Strong Coupling

Jill and Nikki tend to be lovable as they squabble over a chandelier and planning a marriage which wasn’t legal during the time but was necessary for them on your own degree. Kacy and Cori hold on to the thought of a child exactly who may or may not happen, while never wavering inside their really love and support for example another. Tracy and Stamie figure out how to stabilize work, gender, additionally the proper care of three adorable children — certainly one of whom had unique needs. I thoroughly loved the storylines of these three couples navigating lesbian life in a straight globe together. (And I was completely group Jill in Chandelier-Gate. That thing had been harmful!)

Sweet Crushing

At the beginning of season three, I found myselfn’t certain how I thought about Kiyomi, the Hunter Valentine frontwoman whose method of training polyamory was not precisely reasonable to her spouse, Allie. Whenever Kiyomi found enviably pink-haired and pearly white-teethed Angeleno Lauren at Dinah Shore, but all bets had been off. If they kissed about yard, it absolutely was sexy. Once they shyly gazed at the other person and giggled during confessional interviews, it had been cuter. So when Lauren could not steer clear of Kiyomi’s house of the latest York City for just one more minute? Cutest.

Times With Mothers

Hunt, we’re in
and I also neglect my
. This could clarify the reason why it rained-on my personal face each time an enjoying mom figure appeared. Whether it ended up being Jill shouting gladly when the woman mother made a surprise trip to help her choose a marriage dress, Kacy’s mom meeting the woman child for meal and consoling the woman about child Charlie, or Whitney’s grandma witnessing Whitney’s yard Connecticut event, I became a mess, y’all. Why don’t we remember Francine being released to the woman ultra-glam mom Yoko, exactly who right away responded “I love love a whole lot you,” and Sadjah’s mom Sarita praising Sadjah’s Vote for Equality colleagues for living their reality.

I recently genuinely believe that it’s breathtaking obtainable all to face upwards for your rights and fight for what you truly, certainly trust,” she claims.

Actual, Alive Bisexuality!

Carry out Everyone loves the way Chaiken handles bisexual figures and storylines? Not at all times. But as a bi my self, i will be hungry for almost any and all of representation of my personal people in the mass media (Spoiler: nevertheless not loads!). Now, I’ll just take what I could possibly get, and I think it is heartening to see Romi with boyfriends within the show’s 3rd season, along with the ensuing talks of exactly how bi/queer/pansexual females usually believe omitted from gay society as a whole. It is uncommon i discovered Romi relatable, but I relished this type of topic that still isn’t discussed adequate.

Claire. Enough said.

Oh, Claire. She left the woman absolutely attractive girlfriend Vivian in nyc to “begin a lesbian website” in LA — and shack with ex Francine (guess how good that final one went). She blithely refused an internship with “But i am a Cheerleader” director and queer symbol Jamie Babbit. And she’d drunkenly scream in clubs. Claire was the undeniable


This year two main user was actually as disorganized as her ‘80s rock star-esque golden-haired shag, which will be


what you need actually television. Aren’t getting me personally wrong, I found myself a fan of the quieter minutes in “the actual L term,” but Claire introduced the pure dramz, and that I was here for it. (Also, I spent my youth not far from her hometown of St. Louis, so hell yeah for fellow weirdo Midwesterners!)

This Is Actually The Method In Which We Live

Bringing it back once again to “The L Word” motif song most of us liked: There nevertheless aren’t most programs, motion pictures, etc. about queer women


(speaking, laughing, adoring, breathing, etc.). Even if I became sick and tired of Whitney’s pre-engagement player techniques, Sajdah and Chanel acquiring as well severe too quickly and reading the millionth variation of “what exactly’s up with you and so-and-so,” we relished spending time with queer feamales in different stages of their resides, only calculating things . I can’t state We miss out the days when unscripted shows dominated the airwaves, but “the true L Word” had been well worth watching, not just your club-screaming, chandelier-squabbling and broken keyboard-pouting (poor Somer), however for the major lady-loving lesbian fuel.

Bonus: No one dies in a swimming pool.